For a while now Robert has had an attitude that has been very disrespectful (in my opinion). We had tried to ignore some inconsequential things, but it was getting out of hand so we came up with a way to help him see how important it is to be respectful to others - mainly me.
See Robert (I'm sure due to "rights" teaching at school) believed he was equal to his parents - and in some ways he is - he is a child of God, just as we are, but what he was forgetting is that we are his parents, not siblings, not friends, not peers - parents. God entrusted us to take care of him, teach him, love him, guide him. Not the other way around.
Somehow he got it in his head he could just talk to us any which way and say rude and hurtful things to make a point. We don't talk like this at home so it made me wonder where he was getting this influence. He is wonderful in school, church, etc. It's just at home that he has this misconception that he can talk any way he wants. If he talked like that to me at school, he'd be in the office. It was way out of line!
Well, long story short - it came to a breaking point - and I mean BETSY YELLING at him breaking point. It took about a minute for her to calm down, and that is when the consequence came out.
As much as soccer is important to you, Respect to others is important to me - so until you learn to be respectful to others, there is no more soccer. It breaks my heart (literally, I think because I love to watch him play soccer and I know how much he loves soccer - plus try outs are coming up) but I will not allow nor tollerate that type of talk.
If we allow it now, it will just get worse (as we have witnessed). He must learn to not say some of the things he thinks.
So, unfortunately, Robert is grounded from soccer (and other things as deemed by mom) until he can act respectfully towards his parents and siblings.
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