Corrected "Went so Wrong"

So the next day after the crazy "Sierra walks away" was Sunday and it was Jessica's Birthday.  Devon and Sierra were coming over to Jessica and Tate's apartment for her birthday dinner and asked not to talk about it.

I wanted to talk to them about it before they came over but we didn't have time due to the family Zoom call at 4:00 pm

Dinner was at 5:00 pm and the Zoom would take up all the time in-between.  Everything went well during dinner, that was super good.

The next evening I took Devon and Sierra to Blaze Pizza so we could talk about it.  Before going to dinner, I talked to Devon and discussed it with him so he at least could understand there were no bad intentions.  He understood.  Now the question was, how will Sierra respond?

We met at Blaze and everything went very well.  Sierra explained how she jumped to conclusions and mis understood what I was trying to say - since she left without letting me finish my sentence causing her to storm off.

I apologized for making her feel bad even though it wasn't my intention.  I also apologized for my comments after she walked away and tried to explain my perception of what happened.

It broke my heart that she would walk away and react that way - I was in shock.  I couldn't believe it.  She explained a little about her past and how her family dealt with contention - essentially they each went their separate way (Sent to their rooms). So her sharing this with me helped me to understand that that was how she dealt with stress.  She also explained how she had not been taught manners as a youth because her parents were working so hard (after the recession).  They were not there for her, and she felt like she had to raise her younger siblings.  (I could relate to her - not having parents around, cooking dinners, taking care of the younger kids, etc.)

We talked about how that isn't a healthy or mature manner, and shared other methods of dealing with stressful situations.

She explained she has been afraid of making a mistake; I commented that it is the fear of making a mistake that is causing the mistakes.  I asked her to trust me - I have accepted her into our family.  I have (from the beginning) wanted us to have a pleasant and good relationship.  I want her to feel loved and comfortable around me. IT all ended with great big hugs and an even bigger understanding of each other and a great appreciation for a willingness to put this behind us and grow closer together from the experience.