The biggest opportunity to make each moment a positive one is when we take time before we say anything to make sure it is "actually" what we want to say.
Take time to cool down
Take a deep breath before you react to something that displeases you
Take time to count to 5 or even 10 if you need to cool down before saying something
Take a moment to think - what will my child remember from this
Ask yourself -
What is a good way to put distance between an impulse to do or say something you'll regret?
Avoid -
making decisions, issuing ultimatums, reprimanding, and laying down the law when you are angry.
Maintain -
Maintaining your composure is the same as staying in control. You are the parent - You determine the outcome. You demonstrate to your child that you are in control. You set the example. You establish that home is a stable, predictable and sturdy place. A place of love.
Take time to heal emotional wounds
- if you accidentally forget to take time to cool down and say or do something you regret - take time to fix it. Say your sorry. Set the example.
Take time to build their esteem
- catch them doing good things and praise them for it. Give them time and attention for the good things they do. This will offset getting time and attention for doing bad things.
Take time to establish a family value system.
What is important to you as a parent to teach your child(ren). Take time to instill that in them.
Take time for positive moments while you can
just some examples of fun things you can do:
- take walks together
- go get ice cream
- snuggle with a good DVD
- play catch
- "mommy and me" time
- make it a date time
- play dolls
- do a craft together
- put a puzzle together
- read a book together
- run through the sprinkler
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